From Culture Wars to Common Ground:

Religion and the American Family Debate

Don Browning, Bonnie Miller-McLemore, Pamela D. Couture,

K. Brynolf Lyon, and Robert Franklin

(Westminster John Knox Press, 1997)

 

A Critique of the Book’s Treatment of Christian Pro-family Movements

Glenn T. Stanton
Vice-President of Policy and Culture, Palmetto Family Council, South Carolina

Vanderbilt University Divinity School
February 27, 1998

In From Culture Wars to Common Ground, Professor Browning and his fellow authors provide the student of (as well as the participants in) our nation’s current dialogue on family and religion a substantial and intelligent resource. This book is a wonderfully insightful treatment of this subject, which is too often plagued by intellectual prejudice and ad hominem attack rather than a mature and careful search for understanding in these vital issues. As students and participants, we are indebted to each of you for your important work, which helps elevate this discussion from the scrappy arena of the "culture wars" to the higher, more civil arena of thoughtful, productive dialogue. Thank you all for your vision for the book and the hard work exerted to realize it.

Let me also say, personally, that your treatment of the Christian pro-family movements, while not without minor shortcomings, is among the most objective and informed I have seen.

I will confine my comments mainly to chapter 8 "Christian Pro-family Movements: The Black Church, Roman Catholics and the Christian Right." I will address three main issues:

Understanding these three communities (the Black Church, the Catholic Church, and the Christian Right) as distinct and similar sociological units and seeking a more descriptive definition;

The "soft patriarchy" of Evangelicalism and;

The public philosophy of what the book calls that "Christian Right."

The first point serves to expand, and hopefully enhance, the discussion on the different groups making up the Christian pro-family movements. The second is a correction of something the authors misunderstand. The third is an elaboration on something into which the authors show keen insight. 

The Communities of the Christian Pro-family Movement

First, as I address the sociological nature of the religious family debate, I should explain my standing sociologically. I am both a student of this debate by personal curiosity and an active participant by vocation and conviction. I am also a practicing Evangelical and offer my critique from the perspective of that life experience.

While the Black Church, Roman Catholics and Christian Right do involve themselves in the "family values" debate, they do not participate in that debate as three individual, socio-religious silos, existing and acting independent of one another. In fact, depending on unit of measure, there are characteristics that cause each of these communities to overlap, becoming almost indistinguishable from each other. The authors correctly recognize that many feel uncomfortable with the phrase "Christian Right" and define it as a group of "Christians whose thinking is to the right of center in the American family debate."

A more substantive definition is needed. Certainly a significant number of members and leaders in the Black and Roman Catholic Churches have Christian beliefs that are right of center in the American family debate. Examining the major family debates currently being heard, such as same-sex marriage and adoption, abortion, sex-education, the importance of two biological or adoptive parents for proper child development, etc., we find a chorus of thoughtful conservative voices from both the Black and Catholic Churches speaking from the right of center in the American family debate. Are all of these contributors a part of the "Christian Right"? Some may be and others may not. We must realize there is something more than a particular standing point on the political spectrum that identifies one as a part of the "Christian Right."

We should be clear. Many are uncomfortable with the term "Christian Right" because it carries a wealth of loaded baggage. In the popular conscience, it typically and incorrectly refers to Christians who are fundamentalist (either Catholic or Protestant) in their theological epistemology, impositional in their public philosophy and mildly intolerant and unreflective in their personal disposition. To be sure, this is certainly not the picture our authors under discussion paint, but the image is popularly held in the mainstream and academic press. Therefore, this term should either be avoided or more carefully defined.

The "Christian Right" as a label transcends sociological boundaries and includes members of various religious traditions. While it is not heterogenic, white Evangelicals do make up a significant part of the Christian Right body and its leadership. However, many Evangelicals will be quick to remind us that not all Evangelicals are members of the Christian Right, just as, not all members of the Christian Right are Evangelicals. This phenomenon we call the "Christian Right" serves as a melting pot for socially conservative people of faith, be they Whites, African-Americans, Catholics, Evangelicals and even mainline Protestants and Jews who are concerned about the direction the family in America is taking and are working, at many levels, to preserve this important institution with conservative, political and cultural prescriptions.

To further our understanding, we must also recognize the generational differences in the Christian Right, for these greatly impact how participants approach their efforts toward cultural and political reformation. The generational perspective is important. Young and old alike in the Christian Right share similar convictions about the nature of family, society and public life, but their motivations are different and this affects the way they approach their work. Many of those older than 50 years of age in the Christian Right have a deep appreciation for the way things were before the tumultuous events of the 1960s in America. They would like to rediscover those times when right and wrong were clear, God was a relevant part of life, the family unit was strong and the marital commitment was honored more than it is today. In short, they remember back and desire. They seek to preserve what remains.

Many of the leaders in the Christian Right younger than 40 do not have the personal experience with and fondness for the pre-sixties family experience. Therefore, they do not find their motivation in an historical reference point, but in an ideal of what ought to be based on religious conviction and empiricism: experiencing personally or by observation the proliferation of broken homes. In short, they look forward and imagine. They seek to build what ought to be.

These two approaches largely drive the way they undertake their work. Plainly put, people seeking to build something imagined, but never possessed, act and work differently than those seeking to recover something once held, but now lost. This can tend to create a measure of tension between young and old leader. But such tension stemming from different motivations and approaches is inevitable in a movement with a 20 year history and must be worked through. 

The Soft Patriarchy of Evangelicalism

"First and foremost" is how the authors describe the Christian Right’s problem of "defining male authority and responsibility in postmodern society." Dr. James Dobson’s Focus on the Family and Coach Bill McCartney’s Promise Keepers are presented as leaders in addressing this issue for the Christian Right. While this is true, these organizations can be more widely characterized as addressing them for the majority of Evangelicals. It is charged by the authors that the Christian Right, through the major voices of Focus on the Family and Promise Keepers lack an understanding "of love as equal regard [and] lapse easily into soft patriarchy…" Equal regard is defined by the authors as "a relationship between husband and wife characterized by mutual respect, affection, practical assistance and justice- a relationship that values and aids the self and other with equal seriousness."

The authors also charge that Dobson, in his books and radio broadcasts and McCartney, through his large stadium events "will [not] baldly assert that women should not work outside the home or take part in public life. It is clear, however, that they value and idealize women as mothers at home." Curiously, with such a large text to draw from in Dobson’s many books and years of broadcasts and McCartney’s books and multiple events, the authors offer no actual cases where Dobson or McCartney hint that women should not work, but are rather valued primarily as mothers. In addition, they offer very little of substance in support of the "soft-patriarchy" charge.

In response, let me say that, as an employee at Focus on the Family for five years, women do work at Focus on the Family. They work in entry level jobs as well as the highest levels of the organization. Most of them have husbands and families. In addition, they are valued as women and faithful, hardworking, talented employees. Shirley Dobson, Dr. Dobson’s wife, works full-time running Focus on the Family and other ministries and Danae Dobson, his daughter, has a successful career writing children’s books. I have no personal experience with Promise Keepers from which to speak.

Focus does believe however, that while there are children in the home, and the family budget allows, it is best for at least one parent to be home with the children as much as possible. Ideally, children need to be raised by their parents, rather than an auxiliary child-care provider. The work lives of both mother and father should be situated, as reasonably as possible, so that at least one parent is home with the child as much as possible. Beyond this, Focus on the Family says very little about the configuration and division of labor between mother and father, but rather leaves that decision for families to make for themselves. While there is interesting debate between Focus and some constituents on various issues, this does not constitute one of them. The overwhelming majority of Focus on the Family constituents agree with this basic premise and work out the particulars according to their own realities, convictions, and preferences.

Interestingly, Focus has featured stay-at-home dads in stories about how different families are making postmodern life work for them. Likewise, some employee families at Focus operate under this arrangement where the wife works full-time and the father is the primary care-provider for the children. Of course, they do this with no disapproval from Dr. Dobson or the organization.

However, Focus on the Family does get a significant body of mail from women who want ideas on how to stay home with children and still contribute to the family budget, not out of desire for creative or intellectual fulfillment, but out of economic necessity. Likewise, in my personal circle of evangelical friends in three different states, my wife and I know of no mother who is now at home caring for children, but wishes she had a career outside of the home. Conversely, we know of many women currently working outside of the home who wish they could afford to stay home with their children. Therefore a marriage of equal regard cannot be measured by how many women work outside the home or even how often they are encouraged to do so. It is measured in how couples relate to one another in making personal decisions that are best for each other and the family.

Regarding the marriage relationship between husband and wife, I see great equality in evangelical ranks and little cause for alarm. These marriages come very close to the authors’ ideal of equal regard as defined here, with the exception of one point. Evangelicals emphasize and seek to practice mutual respect, affection, practical assistance and justice in their marriages. They do not so much emphasize the valuing and aiding of the self, but rather denying the self and serving the other unconditionally. It is not that the self is insignificant, but rather the human tendency, living in the shadow of the historic Fall, is to focus on our selves. This does not need encouragement, but seeking to fulfill the needs of the other self does because it runs contrary to our natural will. Self-fulfillment is indeed there in good marriages, but as Jim Turner, the husband in the Evangelical case-study family, explains, "it is more of a by-product" rather than a goal actively sought.

I would contend that Evangelicals adopt an interesting equal regard/sacrificial agapic hybrid. The husband is to show affection, respect, practical assistance and justice, be he is also called to be the chief servant of his household, as Christ, our model, is to the Church (Ephesians 5:23). This is no mean calling! For in imitating the example of Christ, the husband is called to do this independent of how his wife responds to him. For, Christ came and gave Himself as Savior independent of our regard for Him (Romans 5:7-8). So there is an emphasis on tender sacrifice and the husband carries the larger part of that responsibility. As a husband, I see the implications of this idea as absolutely revolutionary and I seek to practice it in my marriage. What a wonderful difference it would make in our families if more husbands sought to conduct themselves according this ideal? What if many of our patriarchal fathers had tried it?

Focus on the Family and Promise Keepers have done more than any other, in or outside of Evangelicalism, to encourage this equal-regard/sacrificial-agapic hybrid. They have genuinely improved the situation and not aggravated it. As a young evangelical, observing my own marriage and those of the people I work and go to church with, I find these marriages are very similar to the one represented in Jim and Sophie Turner. Like the Turners, decisions are not made arbitrarily by the man, but husband and wife make them together. When the husband or wife do act arbitrarily and unjustly, they are typically called to account, informally by their close friends of faith from Sunday School, small group studies, or accountability groups initiated as follow-up from Promise Keeper events. I have witnessed this myself among my peer group.

The one substantive example the authors give as an example of soft-patriarchy in evangelicalism is a selection of comments by Tony Evans. His comments deserve some explanation and further understanding. Tony Evans is a popular Promise Keepers speaker and the pastor of a mega-African-American church in Dallas, Texas. He is a very energetic and charismatic preacher/motivator regularly using imaginative language and illustration. He is not a careful crafter of a theology or psychology of husband/wife relationships. He is also accustomed to speaking to his ethnic community, which has been plagued by father and husband absence for several decades, as Patrick Moynihan warned early in his report on the black family. Evans is making his case for men who have completely abdicated their familial and marital responsibilities, encouraging them to exhibit a seriousness and decisiveness about reinserting themselves into family life again. The emphasis is not on developing a heavy hand of patriarchy, but on showing definitive repentance for past negligence. To be sure, the monological character of the narrative is there, as the authors lament. But it exists for effect, and not necessarily as a technical explanation of how the family restoration and reformation should manifest itself. Examples of monological dialogue, which the authors are right to bring attention to, should be drawn from more substantive sources, which unfortunately exist in many different socio-religious groups. 

The Public Philosophy of the "Christian Right"

The authors are right to bring attention to the public philosophy of the Christian Right, for this is an important characteristic for any group in the family debate, especially in this instance. For such a vibrant and influential movement, it is surprising that it effectively has no public philosophy. At least they do not have one that is intentional and articulated. Their public philosophy is, at best, a collage of various and sundry ideas drawn from the Bible, the Founding Fathers, and the Catholic Church; a confusion the authors correctly illustrate. There is very little from the Church Fathers or more contemporary theologians or philosophers. The movement has been limited by this shortcoming and there is a great need here for more work by the Christian Right. Certainly, there are those who are Christian, conservative, politically and/or culturally engaged, concerned about the family, and have an intelligently defined public philosophy; however, these people are not typically included as members or leaders of the Christian Right. This is not true of the leaders mentioned by the authors in chapter 8.

The authors are also right to draw attention to the Dutch theologian and statesman Abraham Kuyper (1837-1920) as a notable model for a public philosophy. His system of thought is valuable and intelligent, but, I regret, poorly understood or appreciated by the Christian Right, including "the state organizations loosely affiliated with Focus on the Family," as reported.

Kuyper was a leader of the Dutch Calvinists in the areas of education, politics, journalism, and the church. At the age of 26, he completed his doctoral work in theology at the University of Leiden and immediately entered the pastorate. His life’s work included serving as a key founder of The Free University of Amsterdam, as well as the Anti-Revolutionary Party, the editor of two major newspapers, simultaneously, and holding a seat in the lower house of the Dutch Parliament. He eventually became Prime Minister of the Netherlands in a Calvinist-Catholic coalition government. In 1898, he visited the United States and delivered the Stone Lectures at Princeton Theological Seminary and received an honorary doctorate.

Two main concepts in Kuyper’s public philosophy are what he describes as "God’s Ordinances" and "sphere-sovereignty" – each having its foundation in a particular understanding of reality as a created order. His idea of "God’s Ordinances" contends that the true law of life, which includes every aspect of life, comes from outside the human will and intellect. These find their beginning and source in the sovereign, personal God. These ordinances are more than directives of how the church should conduct herself or how her people should arrange their own moral lives. They speak to all areas of life, including politics, industry, art, the sciences, etc. God, through His ordinances, has something to say about every area of life, for it is all created by Him, pleasing to Him and under His Lordship. They are "God’s ever present requirements for all human beings in the totality of their lives." These ordinances speak, not in dogmatic chapter and verse necessarily, but by the revealed Word of God and the principles rooted in the creation order. And it is not, according to Kuyper, the churches’ nor the government’s duty to direct these areas of life. Each sphere of life has its own sovereignty under God.

This brings us to Kuyper’s second point: "sphere sovereignty." This concept was given in a speech at the opening of the Free University of Amsterdam in 1880. The university is free, Kuyper claimed, because God’s ordinances for the university are specific to the university and come from God. Therefore, the university is free, under God, from the dictates of the church, the state, or industry, to pursue the task of exploring and developing the life of the mind. This applies to each of the other spheres of human culture as well. God has specific norms, or ordinances, for governing, art, ecclesiology, biology, business, etc. and these spheres, under the authority of God, are sovereign within the bounds of that realm and should not dictate to the others how they should conduct their work. This is because the spheres themselves, as stewards of these talents and knowledge, are able to understand God’s ordinances for that discipline better than those outside the discipline.

This concept of sphere sovereignty differs from the idea of subsidiarity, because it envisions a more horizontal relationship where all are equal under the authority of God. The more vertical configuration of subsidiarity places the state in a superior position to the other parts. Sphere sovereignty should be understood like cogwheels, being independent units, but collectively and harmoniously working together and equally for the social process, rather than hierarchical steps where all are either superior or inferior to each other. Nor are these spheres completely autonomous. These spheres are, at all times, either displaying obedience or disobedience to the divine ordinances and they do so to either the benefit or peril of the social order. What if a sphere is disobedient to the ordinances? Kuyper explains,

All these spheres interlock like cogwheels, and precisely in acting upon one another and in meshing with one another, they produce the rich, multifaceted variety of human society. But this also brings the danger that one sphere in life may break in upon another like a jerky cogwheel that shears off one cog after another until the operation of the entire machine is disrupted. This danger constitutes the rationale for still another sphere of authority, that of the state. The state must make it possible for the various spheres, in so far as they manifest themselves externally, to interact appropriately, and to keep each sphere within its proper limits… The state is a sovereign power…which protects the individual from the tyranny of his own group. It has no authority, however, within each of these spheres. Internally, each sphere is ruled by another authority that descends directly from God, apart from the state.

Another thinker who should be recognized in an understanding of the Christian Right and its public philosophy is Francis Schaeffer (1912-1984). His influence is paramount, but also poorly recognized or understood. Many leaders of the Christian Right (past and present) - Jerry Falwell, Pat Robertson, Jack Kemp, James Dobson, Cal Thomas, Tim Lahaye, John Whitehead, Randall Terry among many others - credit Schaeffer with helping them understand that their Christian faith applied to more than merely their church duties. Christianity applies to all areas of life and is equally relevant to the totality of these areas.

Schaeffer was a pastor and evangelist, but his influence came in his role as a philosopher and apologist. He was of a reformed Presbyterian tradition and was significantly influenced by Kuyper. Although Schaeffer seldom mentioned Kuyper in his books or lectures, the influence is evident and Schaeffer was the primary popularizer of his "ordinances" theory. He helped Christians understand that the Bible has something to say about all areas of life and that what it says is foundational. There is a Christian way of thinking about movies, literature, philosophy, theology, politics, economics, and science. This way is more than thinking morally or pietistically. It is an understanding that there is a created order and as part of the created order, all of these diverse aspects of human culture have a continuity and direction to them that can be known and can direct our participation in these disciplines. Any substantive discussion of the Christian Right must include an understanding of Francis Schaeffer and his work. 

Conclusion

All in all, the authors’ discussion of the Christian pro-family movements is highly insightful and responsibly done. The authors have done the student of and participant in the family debate a great service by elevating this important discussion to a more informed level. The introduction of the book performs its task well, informing him of and preparing him for the substantive presentation that follows. The history and evolution of family and the pro-family debate is valuable, as is the discussion at the end of the book on a theology of the family, a work that is desperately needed. This book certainly will help the family debate move from the "culture wars" to common ground. Again, I offer my sincere thanks to the team for their vision and hard work for this valuable volume.